The Greek Family
Anonymous wrote: Well, I used to work in Athens many years ago, for a good company, so I dealt with nice and educated people. I love Greeks and everything it comes to it culture, food) but for a relationship is thanks, but no thanks. For me, as a woman, I cannot deal with the "ego" that Greek men show and with the idea that it is "me and only me", the rest does not matter. It's hard but if you find the right person, maybe it's different. Anyhow, I had regrets that I did not marry a Greek guy, but all my friends in States congratulated me. And I saw another comment about the fact that all Greek men believe are "Mr.Right" and always right. But they are nice sometimes.
beths1216 wrote: I too was married to a Greek Man. It was the longest 8 years of my life! I lost everything that was important to me, My Identity, self confidence, I lived for him and only him. He felt that he was the most important person in the world and everyone came second. I was living on a time clock! I had to be home at a certain time everyday, could not go out with friends, My world had to be him and only him. He was especially spoiled by his overbearing mother, In her eyes he could do no wrong! I don't believe all Greek Men are like this, I just believe I picked a bad apple. Unless you are Greek, being married to a Greek man can be very difficult, It takes allot of patience and be prepared to give up allot of yourself. I do have to admit they can be romantic but it does not weigh out the bad.
inkyovos wrote: I have read this blog in friendster and I checked out the site and I
've read the comments also...I am a Filipina having a 6 years relationship with a Greek man. as far as I'm concern the "drama" that stating how Greek men are is absolutely true in the ancient time where Greek men treating Greek women the same as animals because they said that women generally have irrational thinking,lame,and just for the house but that was in the bronze age(mycenean world) but Greek men in the modern way (well not all ok)are just promises but are made to be broken...the first time I came here back in 2003 he said he will marry me but he didn't because he was uncertain, and when he came to my country again last year he said he will but it didn't haven't and now also that he brought me back here he said a lot of promises but it all torn into pieces in the contrary I think the real attitude of a Greek men nowadays is uncertainty and also added to that, though u have been step on their pride and principles they are also forgiving. right now I ain't hoping anymore for marriage as long as we understand each other and we love each other it doesn't matter anymore despite the cultural differences we have. thank you for posting this blog somehow it gave me some snapshots how to keep my Greek man:)
Ginny wrote: I am a British (English) woman who has been married to a Greek man for the past 4 years (we've been together for six). We have two wonderful children, a lovely home here in the UK.
I have been reading some of these posts in amazement as some of them appear to mirror my own thoughts on the trials of being married to a Greek man.
My husband, although a kind man, appears to have all the characteristics previously discussed on the board. He is obsessively jealous, ruled by his mother's doctrine, and selfish in regard to household chores. He will do his share of the housework but only in things that HE thinks should be done - everything else is left to me. He is moody and irrational whenever things go wrong but high in the clouds whenever things are going right.
He cannot stand my family and makes every effort to avoid visiting them or allowing them to visit me or our children. If my parents come to visit, he makes them uncomfortable until he practically forces them out of the door, constantly reminding me "This is OUR house!" (Translation: "This is MY house!"
To the other extreme, when we are in Greece visiting his family, I am expected to be polite, courteous and helpful to his mother and sister. I am expected to follow their advise and do as I'm told. Several times during our last holiday to Greece a couple of months ago, I was told by my husband, several times to offer my help to his mother in the kitchen. When I told him to offer his help he gave me a look that can only be that of a long-suffering parent explaining a complex issue to a small child. Eventually, he asked his mother if she needed any help and she refused saying that she would be fine. Less than five minutes later, when I offered my help I was given a list of things to do!
My husband hates not being in control of everything and has foul mood swings if he feels that he's not in charge and in control. His jealousy is something I find hard to swallow as it also affects my relationship with my parents. So far this year I have spent more time with his mother in Greece than I have with my own mother who only lives 2 hours away from me!
He seems to think that I should cut all ties with my family and concentrate my affections purely on his and cannot seem to understand the frustration his attitude brings me.
When we argue, he won't let me speak until he's finished his tirade but when I get my turn to speak he constantly interrupts me, puts words into my mouth and twists my meanings until I no longer remember my original point. At this stage, he declares that he has won the argument, becomes triumphant and I am forced to apologise regardless of whenever I started the argument or not!
The trials of being married to a Greek man are far harder than I ever imagined.
Anonymous wrote: My daughter wants to marry a Greek man. What can she do that nay help the females in the family accept her?